Prolly you still assume that Nepalese favour India over China.
With what has been communicated to me by the Nepalese around me, India is no more seen as a “friendly” neighbour. Au contraire China is now in the Nepalese good books.
A lot of damage has been done already.
Since sometime now India hasn’t been very pro-active in its role in Nepal, as well as in the Island nations - Sri lanka & Maldives.
Sri Lanka was being used by ISI through IKK (LeT’s charitable wing) to radicalise a certain “community” and the same is happening in Maldives.
(i hope you’re abreast with the ltest developments in SL).
Nepal though a Hindu majority nation is pro-China / pro-communist— just as perilous as SL and Maldives.
I don't know what your friends told you, what I am saying is irrespective of what Nepali thinks, they are dependent on India for everything and will remain for foreseeable future, If not forever. There is no alternative, in the real world.
This is the main power India has in Nepal which is unrivaled and not comparable to any other country like Sri Lanka or Maldives. Forget about India and consider the two states of UP and Bihar, which is culturally linked better than Durand line across Pakistan and Afghanistan, with plains people they marry their kids across the border.
Coming to Gorkhas, they too have good links with Gorkhas of Darjeeling and Assam, they come to work there and have good relations, although that is not as pronounced as Biharis and Madhesis due to less numbers. Similar is the case with Border areas of Uttarakhand.
And as India develops, more and more Nepalis are coming every day for Jobs, and due to open border this will only increase, they are like Mexico of India. It is our responsibility to develop good network in Nepal, have better understanding with their police and help them with law and order in Border areas. I am not in favour of fencing the Border, this will alienate Nepalis and will not be good for India in longer run.
The ruling party there is just a political force, we need to discredit them through info-warfare and make the people throw them out. World over leftists governments are falling, Nepal is not an exception, what we have to do is develop a proper Right wing party and cannibalize Nepali congress network into It. This can be done but It will take some time.