pmaitra
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Good analysis.I agree with this but i also feel that this lack of emotional connect is more pronounced in man to man equation than in man to woman eq, primarily because with a woman its safe for a man to show some emotions and even physically demonstrate his support to her in times when she is emotionally stressed... I think the genders are pretty balanced out in this respect... its like nature has made it thus that one of them can be calm when the other is upset and needs help...And this precisely the reason why men rely on their mothers, sisters, wives, daughters or female friends for "emotional" anchoring.
Many men feel transformed when a daughter is born..
A man is not conditioned to respond in the same way to another man and that is also the reason why the son would turn to his mother for emotional support. This emotional distance extends to other relationships men have in their life like brothers, friends, colleagues.
A man's weird way of offering emotional support suits women because most times they deal with their own crisis, all they want is a sounding board. That might not work with another man who wants solutions to his problems.
To sum up the advise "It will be alright" will work with a woman, it isn't likely to work for a man.
It also seems like you glanced at the comments on that article.