This is comparing Apples with Oranges. Indian Government is not France or Britain, we are still a developing country and will easily get tempted to buying foreign goods. As it is we are the largest buyer of foreign arms in the world. France and Britian had an empire and their culture was more towards self-reliance but India on the other hand does not have the same culture and is pron to becoming reliant and cozy, haveing no friends or to have a challenge only brings out the best in you.
France and England weren't always like that, if you go back far enough they too had to grow through alliances with other nations. If you go back far enough, you'll see instances in history of a more united and self-reliant India; such as the Mauryans.
Moreover no one is rejecting foreign help, India is an ally of the US and NATO countries and ties are growing stronger which is the right way to go but its demonic to say the least when the US has and is still supporting Pakistan and helping Chinese economy grow faster than an Democracy like India is a sober reality that we should live with and does not help build trust in anyway. USA will definitely cause us more harm in the long run if we take sides we will only fall into traditional stereo types and bring biases to any negotiation table either with China or Pakistan. For Pakistan and Taliban we would become the Kafir alliance which we already are and would become an eternal conflict of good vs evil, right now its still only Kashmire. With China it would become an US vs China issue for dominance in Asia, so its better to go to any negotiation table as India and not with any more baggage. We should learn to solve our problems by our-self which is very important for our growth and stability.
US relations with Pakistan should end, I agree. Pakistan is showing more and more everyday of its intent to drift towards China, and yet we are witnessing the destabilization of Pakistan by the US air force and their agents. Pakistan has spent well over $30 billion US dollars in helping them in their war on terror.
The US helping China in its economics is hard to say at this point, since they're also shouldering parts of US debt at the moment and starting to piss off the world with their ignoring of intellectual patents, copying everything, and you also have to consider that the US has far stronger relations with South Korea, Japan, Taiwan, and ASEAN. It appears a game is being played to contain China, and the CCP have taken it hook, line, and sinker.
Whether or not being an ally of NATO or the US will be detrimental or positive to India in the long run is hard to say; although I would doubt it would be negative. Yes it would mean greater involvement against China, but the PRC has few friends in this world. Too much isolationism will damage Indias growth and image.