Hi friends !!
How to maintain good relationship between Indo-China and avoid any possible WAR. Having good relations is the best defense for both countries.
How to maintain good relations between India and China, right? Before, I answer the question, you tell me how do you define 'good relations'? Is avoiding war/conflict enough or do you want India to hold its own?
If avoiding war at any cost is the criteria, then we can perhaps hope to have good relations with China by being subservient to them. By gifting away any and every inch of land that they covet. By pleasing them on every turn even at the expense of our national interests, then perhaps we can hope to avoid conflict/war that the Chinese seem to be forcing upon us. But then again, after the recent articles published that talk about breaking India into several parts, I am not sure even our subservient attitude would suffice, perhaps it would only embolden them to make more brazen attempts at dismembering India.
But if you want India to protect its interests, then having good relations with China is not the top priority. The top priority goes to Indian interests. If China wants 'good relations', they come only from mutual respect. So China must not covet Indian lands, China must not support terrorist states that are actively involved in exporting jihad to India, China must not try to go against Indian interests in world forums like supporting Pakistan on the issue of Kashmir or trying to veto the banning of LeT or trying to veto the loan to AP, or trying to stop the NSG waiver to India.....etc. That means, China must show that it is interested in having 'good relations' with us.
We would need to match them militarily, diplomatically, and technologically or atleast present minimum deterrance to inspire such benign thoughts in communist regime of China. Our timid responses or 'friendly gestures' will only earn us contempt and further embolden the PRC. They understand the language of power and force. Let us talk to them in that language.
Chinese civilization and Indian civilization have lived in peace and prosperity for many centuries. But the current communist regime in China is not the inheritor of that great civilization or its ethos. It is an oppurtunistic and hegemonic regime, that must be thwarted for the peace of the region and well being of the country.