Shame on Haryana - Child mothers

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  1. parijataka

    parijataka Senior Member Senior Member

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    Hope Muslim organisations/Haryana govt will do something about this problem - having an average of 8 kids in this day and time is nothing but criminal and harmful to society when the world in general and India particularly is suffering from overpopulation.

    Child mothers

    I USED TO play ghar-ghar all day before my marriage. Now there’s just no time,” says 16-year-old Saina. Married at age 10, her day starts early, cooking for a family of 12. That done, she takes a brief while to tend her eight-month-old, massage and bathe him before heading out to the fields to work there all day with her husband. Coming home means getting down once again to cook for the whole household. With so little time for herself, Sania hasn’t yet realised how her once favourite game is now her life.

    At a time when television soap Balika Vadhu has compelled otherwise passive citizens to take notice of and condemn child marriage, the Ministry of Women and Child Development recently announced that only 78 cases of the heinous crime had been reported nationwide in 2008. The unreported reality is very different, as may be seen only 50 kms from New Delhi in Mewat, Haryana, where hundreds of girls are married off each year before they hit puberty.

    Populated largely by a sect of Muslims, called the Meos, Mewat was carved out from Faridabad and Gurgaon as a separate district in 2005. Its inhabitants are believed to have converted to Islam under Sufi influence in the 14th century, but retained traditional customs like dowry and restrictions on marriage between gotras. Child marriage was another institution faithfully preserved. Today, Mewat is characterised by its disproportionately high number of teenage mothers. The official figure of an average family is eight.

    Lean, wrinkled Jamila, 60, was married at age nine. The first part of her life was spent bearing children and the second is now invested in helping her daughters and daughters-in-law do the same. “The day my periods started, my mother-in-law told me she would get my husband another bride if I did not produce four sons in the next four years.” Jamila is now the ‘proud’ mother of 22 children: 16 boys and six girls. When we ask her their names, she quietly folds her hands and smiles. Consecutive deliveries every nine months not only made backaches a defining feature of her life but gave her a permanent limp — she walks today on crutches. She insists she has no complaints, however. “It’s a woman’s duty to produce as many children she can. They are God’s gift.” Her 15-year-old daughter-in-law died recently, 10 days after delivering her first child. Jamila is matter-of-fact. “All girls here start reproducing at 14. Maybe she didn’t have the ability.” The general opinion in the area suggests that any girl who is 19 should have at least three children.

    SHAMEFUL STATISTICS

    8 The official figure for the average number of children in a family

    166 deaths per 1,000 deliveries. The maternal mortality rate has risen as there is pressure on girls to produce as soon they reach puberty

    98 percent of the pregnant young mothers are malnourished leading to pregnancy complications and death


    854 females per 1,000 males. Mewat’s sex ratio stands significantly lower than the national average, 927 to 1,000.
    THE PRESSURE on barely pubescent girls to reproduce has led to a maternal mortality rate as high as 166 per 1,000 births. Saina’s friend Humaira was married at the same time as she. Pregnant at 14, Humaira died during childbirth due to cephalopelvic disproportion, a condition when a woman’s pelvic opening is too small to allow the infant’s head to pass through, something frequently found in young mothers.

    Says HS Randhawa, Mewat’s Chief Medical Officer, “With girls as young as 13 getting pregnant, the risks increase exponentially.” Like Rafiq and his two sisters, who all have squints. Doctors have told their mother, 23-year-old Salma, that her children’s problems lie in her gross malnutrition during pregnancy. Salma has been bed-ridden for two years since she suffered a haemorrhage while delivering her last child. Ninety-five percent of Mewat’s people live in rural areas and their primary occupation is agriculture. There is little irrigation in the district, and with rain depleting every year, 51 percent of Mewat’s population is currently below the poverty line. Acute penury further hampers proper antenatal care.

    During last October alone, only 462 births of the district’s 4,000 recorded deliveries took place at a hospital. The rest were at home. Despite government health centres offering pregnant girls free checkups, their families are wary of availing the facility because they fear forced tubectomy.

    Mewat’s sex ratio stands at 854 females per 1,000 males, significantly lower than the national 927 to 1,000 average. Though early motherhood takes a toll each year, the maternal death rate here still remains unknown.

    Amman Begum, 34, is a ‘Paro’, a term for girls brought from distant places to marry into Mewat families, a clandestine practice meant to mask the scarcity in the district of women of reproductive age. Amman is the mother of 15: six daughters and nine sons. She says in her Hyderabadi accent, “Since the time my tenth child was born, I’ve had a persistent, crushing pain in my lower abdomen. I feel like my insides are dropping out of me.”

    While child marriage and trafficking are prohibited by law, Mewat SP KK Rao chooses to remain passive. He says, “We have heard about such practices but we have never got an official complaint.” Before such apathy, there is little to prevent Mewat’s quagmire of custom and patriarchy from sucking little girls and their childhood into its womb.

    (Published in Tehelka Magazine, Volume 6 Issue 7, Dated 21 February)
     
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  3. Bangalorean

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    WTF - "proud mother" of 16 boys and 6 girls :frusty:

    A mandatory compulsory 2-child policy is a must now. Enough is enough.
     
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    Haryana is messed up. Haryanvis are worse than upites and biharis when it comes to social backwardness and criminal mentality
     
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    A imam in one of the mosque in Holland publicly urged all Muslim in Holland to produce more and more kids ...:sad::sad::sad:
     
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    Absolutely - plus deny reservations in education, jobc, freebies, benefits/cash transfers to all those who have more than 2 children. India is dirt poor and over populated and just cannot afford this kind of idiocy
     
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    I have been to this district called Mewat & adjoining Alwar during marriage of my Meo friend, one of most socially backward area. The is dominated by Meo muslims who called themselves direct descendents of Moghuls. These people are very conservative and follow whatever their Mullahs says. This area is like mini-pakistan, so can not expect any sanity from them.

    One of my friend is Meo, from this area, his description tells about the females do not have much voice & respect till they produce kids , though these people are finalcially/ politically very strong & enjoy dominence with sheer muscle power.

    The elders give blessing who produce more kids & it is a matter of pride to prodcue more kids and be dear to Allah.

    This is from my personal account what I have witnessed during my three days stay. It will take long time to change these people
     
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    Whether one accepts this or not, one would find mini-pakistan in majority of "Indian districts" with similar numbers of average family members & ever-ready to expand.
    Our politicians ensures that no one interferes with their business because they vote en-masse. Old news, anyway.
     
  9. jamesvaikom

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    Crimes against women are high in places where most people talk about culture, moral etc. Khaps, Mullahs etc. won't allow girls to dance in public or walk through road alone. But they have no problems with child marriages. The so-called social activists are busy protesting against industrialization. But they don't care about child marriages, population growth etc. Instead of demanding Govt. to spend more money for poor why can't these social activists encourage poor people to adapt family planning? Govt. subsidies won't eradicate poverty. But Govt. subsidies + family planning will reduce poverty.
     
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    You are perfectly right. Crimes against women, AND social crimes in general, are highest in places where people talk too much about "cultures and morals". It is not about rich or poor, North or South, East or West. It is the mentality that matters.
     
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    What can SP KK Rao can do.

    this is problem with mullas they are not ready to change.those who want to change are label as infeilds
     
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    Muslim marriage is a civil contract, rules high court

    Muslim marriage is a civil contract, rules high court - The Times of India

     

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