My parents didn't want me to marry Rajiv: Sonia

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  1. pmaitra

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    My parents didn't want me to marry Rajiv: Sonia

    IANS, Dec 18, 2010, Times of India

    NEW DELHI/LONDON: Congress president Sonia Gandhi candidly admitted to the California governor's wife that her parents were against her marriage with Rajiv Gandhi, US embassy cables provided by WikiLeaks reveal.

    Gandhi also told Maria Shriver, wife of Arnold Schwarzenegger, in August 2006 that she would "write a book someday with the whole story" as to why she did not take up the job of prime minister in 2004.

    The cable on Gandhi-Shriver meeting, dated August 4, 2006 and marked "confidential", is titled "A garrulous Sonia Gandhi opens up to Maria Shriver", indicating how freely the Indian leader chatted away.

    Shriver met Gandhi as part of her official visit to India. A reading of the cable indicates the conversation might have been taped by accompanying US embassy officials.

    The cable says that Gandhi, who is "usually withdrawn and reserved in public ... revealed a rare glimpse of herself" as she spoke about herself, women's issues and compulsions of political life.

    "Her comments and demeanour put the lie to cocktail party suggestions that she courts Manmohan Singh's job," the cable said.

    The cable says: "Gandhi revealed that her own parents objected to her marriage to Rajiv Gandhi and she 'resented their position' and went ahead and married him anyway."

    Rajiv Gandhi became prime minister in 1984 and was assassinated in 1991.

    The cable said Gandhi was reluctant to provide details regarding her decision to turn down the prime minister's post after the 2004 victory of the United Progressive Alliance (UPA).

    "I am often asked about this, but tell people that I will write a book someday with the whole story," she told Shriver.

    "She would only say that she 'felt better' that someone else became PM and 'did not regret' her decision.

    "She elaborated, at (former cabinet minister) Karan Singh's insistence, saying she was under lots of pressure as 'party workers' were 'very upset'. They 'could not understand' why she, as party president, was not taking up the post, since they had voted for her and won a majority."

    Among other things, the cable revealed:
    • Gandhi said the situation for women in India was more troubling and traumatic as Indian women must deal with myriad problems not found in the West.
    • Gandhi repeatedly urged her husband Rajiv Gandhi to avoid politics.
    • She herself took to politics when "the Right was becoming strong in India and Congress weak". She said her children were not keen about this but told her: "Whatever you decide, we will back you."
    • Gandhi said "some (political) parties believe that women should not be in power".
    • Gandhi said that south India was "more progressive" than the north on women's issues for historical and cultural reasons.
    • Gandhi agreed with Shriver that many Indians still considered female children "a problem".
    • Gandhi jokingly pointed out that the "Indian Left is anti-American" but agreed that its stance was aimed at "American policy" rather than the American people.
    • Gandhi said that many Indian Muslims "resent certain policies of the US".
    The cable said of the meeting: "Sonia Gandhi is often stiff and detached when in public. This was a more relaxed Sonia, possibly because she felt a personal rapport with Maria Shriver.

    "In this more relaxed setting, Sonia Gandhi revealed a left of centre political orientation which stresses the strong role of the government in ensuring social progress and her inherent opposition to the social conservatism of the Hindu right.

    "At the same time, she entertained no illusions that she or the UPA will bring about rapid social change or uplift quickly India's oppressed women."

    It added: "Despite her carefully erected Indian persona, her basic Italian personality is clearly evident in her mannerisms, speech and interests.

    "She presents an intriguing enigma of a warm private personality that remains concealed and is available only to her closest confidants and family members."

    Read more: My parents didn't want me to marry Rajiv: Sonia - The Times of India http://timesofindia.indiatimes.com/...v-Sonia/articleshow/7122884.cms#ixzz18SRhlNKU
     
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    Her father was a mere building contractor.

    By marrying Rajiv Gandhi she has been elevated from the middle class.

    Why is she apologetic about marrying Rajiv Gandhi?

    What's the reason for her parents not being happy with her marrying Rajiv Gandhi?
     
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    I would probably think twice before giving my daughter away to someone from say Nigeria, like the son of an influential Nigerian politician. Such must have been the situation facing Sonia's parents. We need to remember that afterall, Italy is a very vain nation, and at its time it had been just a couple of decades since a fascist regime fell; and India then was a typical third-world country with not much achievement; in a situation similar to what Nigeria is in, now.
     
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    why release something like this after being married more than 4 decades ago?? This is private information and very disrespectful to her departed husband. She was not running away with her boyfriend from a school crush she was marrying into one of the most powerful families in the world.
     
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    True. The problem is that people have said things in their candid moments least expecting them to be flashed out like this. However, we should not overlook the fact that she married Rajiv Gandhi despite her family's opposition and she deserves credit for that. She could do it only because she was European. I wonder if an Indian woman could have done something like this. One good example will be the one quoted below:

    Let us also keep in mind that she has tried to keep a very 'Indian' image in India and has worked hard on spoken Hindi and on carrying herself gracefully in a Saree. These days, she does but only a few things to betray her European origins. Again, it will be unfair to expect her to renounce her European heritage. I as an Indian living abroad would never give up many of my Indian mannerisms that I value so very much.
     
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    True, it must have been intensely difficult for her to adopt Indian ways and language.

    Worse would her having to rub shoulders with paam chewing, khaini spitting class of politicians.

    Yes, she deserves credit!

    However, if she has to be in Indian politics that has its backbone in the rustic class, European mannerism would not take her far.
     
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    To know more about her hidden life plz watch "sonia gandhi exposed" on you tube ...............u will come to know much more.
     
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    Thank GOD that Rajiv MARRIED SONIA

    Otherwise IF RAJIV had Married an Indian woman then in 1991 AUTOMATICALLY Rajiv's Indian Wife would have become the PM

    In 1999 lok sabha elections Congress presented Sonia as PM candidate And the immediate issue was SWADESHI or VIDESHI PM

    Similarly Man Mohan Singh would not have become PM if SONIA was not of Italian origin

    ATLEAST WE GOT A BREAK FROM DYNASTIC RULE
     
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    The dynasty still rules, just through Vazirs and Muneems.
     
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    If he had married any Indian all our old antiques would have been in Indian instead of being shipped to Italy.
     
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    So, her parents were Pro-India!!
    Good to know.
     
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    I wish that Rajiv Gandhi had married someone more sensible than Sonia. Just like I wish Indira Gandhi had married someone with a little more backbone, and whose name wasn't Gandhi (you'd be surprised how many foreigners think that Indira, Rajiv, Sonia, Rahul, etc are descendants of Mahatma Gandhi)
     

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