Marital Rape or Celibate Marriage? We had a spirited discussion in another thread, entitled “Woman fined for misusing law against husband,” and there was an interesting comment by @Sakal Gharelu Ustad, which I think may be used to fork out yet another discussion. Therefore folks, this thread. There is a debate in India, about “Marital Rape.” Before I go on to establish the pertinent question on this topic, allow me to present an anecdote. The anecdote is from the United Kingdom, however, this applies in the Indian context as well. The entire article entitled “Frustrated husband creates spreadsheet of wife's excuses for not having sex with him,” is worth reading. The summary is as follows: The wife consistently refuses to have sex with her husband. The husband repeatedly requests, but does not force his wife, however, diligently notes down all the excuses the wife offers for not having sex with him in an Excel spreadsheet. Eventually, the husband emails the Excel spreadsheet to the wife. The wife then shares this spreadsheet on Redditt. Exhibit: Having read the comments, there are two things that were suggested. The wife shared the Excel spreadsheet online in the hope of getting support for herself and against her husband. The wife shared the Excel spreadsheet online to seek advice as she intended to work on her marriage. For the sake of a little humour, here is an interesting comment on the article: PickledOnion > Guest • a year ago They obviously didn't Excel at intimacy The question is, was it inappropriate of the husband to send her that Excel spreadsheet, or was it inappropriate of the wife to share it online, or both? Also, what is the best solution in this situation? Now, coming back to the concept of “Marital Rape,” especially in the Indian context, there are many questions. Should a man be forced to remained married and lead an almost celibate life just because his wife prefers to avoid sex? If couples are not having enough sex, should they continue to live like brothers and sisters, or should the husband be allowed to tell his wife, “get thee to a nunnery,” if I am allowed to quote Shakespeare (Hamlet, Act III, Scene I) in a different context, and end the marriage? In a marriage, both the spouses are expected to be loyal to their marriage. Is it better to remain in the marriage but satisfy one’s needs outside of marriage so as not to be accused of “Marital Rape,” or is it better to end the marriage? The same problem would arise if the husband continues to deny his wife sex. Feel free to discuss related but tangential topics as well. I request everyone to keep it mutually cordial.