So to put it clearly, because Pakistanis are trying to turn Indian Muslims to fight Hindus therefore Pakistanis should not be welcomed on Indian soil ?
Why would you put it clearly when Its already clear and people are able to comprehend what I am saying. It is a simplistic assertion when you would rephrase it, not the one I wrote.
1. Why would Indian muslims be waylaid by the Pakistanis ? Is there any cause/grouse, or they gullible and Pakistanis uber smart ?
What do you want me to say about Indian muslims ?They are as weak and as vulnerable like any other Indian and then Pakistanis have interest in destabilizing us, they have been doing it.
Indian Muslims have been found compromised by them, outlaws have found safe heavens in Pakistan. I would welcome when Indian Muslims will at-least do some extra bits to give message to Indian Muslims who are gullible, at risk being compromised. When a head of their prime religious place speaks on Issues of national concern it help Indian Muslims.
2. What kind of resources are we spending on Pakistanis who wish to come to India, for pilgrimages ? Is Pakistan reciprocating ?
Consulate services, risk of them over staying, window to ISI for espionage, security, police convoys for their buses, burden of facilitating them when mood is against their hostile doing.
I don't care if Pakistanis are facilitating Sikhs for their pilgrimage. The Sikhs I know are more nationalistic than religious. Hindus have abandoned their places of worship ages ago, they are literally in ruins. I doubt Sikhs would like to visit their temples steeping over dead bodies of their own mates.
3. Should our policies be mutual in all respects or some respects, how do we define where should we be petty and where should we be magnanimous or should we hold steadfast to realpolitik ?
They have been, the total history of Indo-Pak relationship is mutual in all aspects.
The national interest decides it or I say national mood, wrong or right it is our collective responsibility to share the loses and benefits of our pettiness or magnanimity. Real politic at risk of life of Indians is a failure, realpolitik work under that threshold.
4. Should we allow some Khadim from Ajmer to dictate our policies ?
He isn't, he is doing what is in his authority to do, rest of the Institutions are working as usual (Issuing visa to Pakistanis).
Pakistanis are free to incur what ever impression they want to pick about Indian masses including Muslims they already abuse (Hindu-ized Muslims, traitors of Muslim ummah, write poems humiliating them) just to make sure/assume they remain subtle against Pakistani aggression against India or irrelevant for the same cause.
5. Is open hostility with your neighbour a smart tactic ?
A mortal enemy which we can foresee will keep investing in asymmetrical war against us has to be subdue by many ways including clandestine and open hostility or both. There should be no lines drawn. Open hostility (I don't know how Ajmer Shariff Khadim's nationalism can be treated as open Hostility) reflects our resolve which Pakistan some how thinks we lack and thus they get lured into misadventures against us.
During Kargil war one of their General (I think from infamous gang of Four) ranted the same slogan they used during 1971 war ''Baniya weak Hindus'' during a core group meeting. I can post a video were a Pakistani media journalist lady present there categorically quoted his words as its is in a CA program on national TV.